How to be painful but not suffer? (1 min read)

Pain and suffering are often used interchangeably, but they hold distinct meanings. Labor, for example, can be long and painful, but it doesn’t have to equate to suffering. Consider the soreness you might feel after a good workout—it’s painful, but it’s not suffering. On the other hand, the pain of losing a loved one, feeling remorse, or experiencing loneliness may not be physically painful, but it can cause deep suffering.

My training as a doula has shown me the importance of helping pregnant people understand that the pain of labor is just a side effect of the process, not the process itself. Many of my clients express that their biggest fear about labor pain is the potential for feeling overwhelmed, helpless, and out of control. This is a fear of suffering, and it happens even before the pain starts!

The takeaway here is that knowledge replaces fear, and knowledge builds trust. When you understand what’s happening, you can approach the experience with a sense of empowerment rather than dread.

As a doula I support your journeys physically, mentally, emotionally and educationally. I also advocate for your needs and requests before and during your labor.

Learn more about my doula service here.